It's been a few days...we had some rough moments and I didn't really feel like blogging the past few days. We have had some very intense meltdown moments but they are getting better. I think he is learning to trust us more every day and figure out his place in our home and his boundaries and feeling reassured that we are here for him. Yesterday, he was really upset with me that he couldn't have a lollipop for breakfast. I explained we don't eat candy for breakfast which resulted in a huge meltdown moment...he hadn't slept well and I know he was tired so that did not help the situation. During these moments, we reassure him that we love him, that we are here forever while also explaining the expectations such as no hitting, no candy for breakfast, etc. We ended up having a great time at Lola's and a friend's house until another meltdown at dinner. Today, we were virtually meltdown free minus the usual bedtime stuff...he has decided lately he's not tired so the once 8 pm bedtime is turning into 10 pm before he will fall asleep! He told me tonight at bedtime, "No candy. Candy later. Chocolate later." He was so serious and so proud of himself that he knew that. He is such a sweet, loving little boy. (This has nothing to do with anything above, but I don't think I mentioned that last week when we were outside, he blessed us all with water and said a Catholic prayer for each of us! I videotaped the moment...such a sweet, precious child!)
Yesterday on the way to my mom's, he looked at a building we were passing and said, "I love and then he named his orphanage. Today, he named a new teddy bear after a friend from the orphanage. We have also made the decision to keep his last name as his middle name and then he will take our last name as his. He has learned to say his new full name and he loves to repeat it over and over. Today, he named off children from the orphanage and then added Allison to their name. Oh, how I wish we could take all his friends...so many sweet children! We all love this little boy so much and all he brings to our family. When he grieves, we grieve with him. I cry every time I watch his videos from the orphanage. He is such a brave little boy and is doing so well for the many changes in his life. Today, he wanted to go out to our swimming pool...poor child, he can't quite get used to the change of cold weather and that's one change I can't do a thing about!
Tomorrow he will meet more family and Sunday will go to his first Sunday morning church service. We are all adjusting to our new roles, schedules, and routines. I will try to post some more pictures this weekend but they are on my other computer.
2 comments:
Tammy, Thank you for sharing all of your ups and downs. I want to be prepared as possible, although I know nothing can prepare us for our unique child. So many things to think about.
Tammy, Jay-R sounds like such a precious little guy and he sounds so thoughtful. The meltdowns must be tough, but as time goes by, things should become easier. Enjoy your little guy and thank you for your updates.
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